It may seem that the word « indifference » evokes a certain coldness or even emotional selfishness … and yet it is not.
Included in context of personal growth, this word implies a great inner value that we should all learn to develop.
Being indifferent, not to discard all that matters to us, destroying the emotional ties or personal relationships that we have with the people you love.
Being indifferent, it’s just knowing how to love, appreciate and invest in a more balanced and healthier; a liberation of these excesses that imprison us, that bind us. That we cut the wings.
Free themselves emotionally, is to give the opportunity to live more honestly, in accordance with its needs.
So this is to give the opportunity to grow, to advance knowingly, without doing any harm to anyone, and no one passes us, without our knowledge, the chains of passionate love, filial or maternal.
So learn to practice these simple laws governing indifference …
Here are 4 laws of indifference leading to emotional release:
First law: you are responsible for yourself
Nobody will depart each stone that you find on your way, will not breathe for you, nor will propose to increase your pains or feel your pain.
You yourself are the artifice of your own existence and each step you take.
Thus, the first law you must take into account to be indifferent, is learn to aware that you are fully responsible for yourself.
– Do not consider your happiness depends on others. Do not think that to be happy in this life, it is essential to be in a relationship with someone who loves you, or always benefit from the recognition of your family.
– If the barometer of your satisfaction and your happiness depends on what others bring you, all you get is more suffering.
In fact, thinking that way, you’ll be hard pressed to meet all your needs.
– Grow your own happiness, you feel responsible, mature, become aware of your decisions and their consequences. Make your choice by yourself and never allow your well-being always depends more hearts than yours.
Second Law: live the present moment, accept, assume reality
In this life, nothing is eternal, nothing remains, everything flows and resumes its path while weaving this natural order that we all have trouble meeting.
Most often, only the account past our eyes, which ultimately weigh on the present.
These family disagreements, the trauma, the loss, this sentimental failure or not overcome this frustration, are anchors that pull us down, that bind our feet and hameçonnent soul.
It is a little toxic and healthy addiction that prevents us from advancing in freedom, and in the utter fullness.
Accept, assume, even if it costs you, learn to forgive.
Thus, you will feel more free, and you can focus on what really matters, the « here and now » that this where your real chance lies. So what are you waiting for grab?
Third Law: your freedom advocate and also allow others to be free
Assume that freedom is the fullest form, integrates and healthy to enjoy life, but also to understand it in all its immensity.
However, this does not prevent that we can forge emotional bonds with others, as this is also part of our personal growth. We must know how to love and learn to receive love.
However, indifference means that you should never feel responsible for the lives of others, just as others should not impose their principles, penalties or personal channels to tie you to them.
This is where begin the real problems and sufferings.
Intense dependencies are never healthy. Think of those obsessive parents who overprotect their children and prevent them to be able to mature and move forward with confidence to explore the world.
In these cases, the need to « detach » is vital, given that each of us must stay within certain to learn of the unexpected and the unknown.
Fourth Law: do not deny the existence of losses
Once again it comes back to the same idea: to accept that in this life, nothing lasts forever.
Life, relationships, and even material things, eventually dissipate, resembling smoke escaping from an open window, or in cool water slipping through our fingers.
The people go, the children grow up, some friends end up not being, and some love spin between your fingers warm …
It’s all part of indifference, and we must learn to take to confront with more integrity, and with more force.
However, what will never change is your ability to love … so start by loving yourself.